You Don’t Need The ‘Perfect’ Summer: Letting Go of Pressure & Finding Peace

When the calendar flips to June, and kids are getting out of school, your social media feed starts filling with envy-inducing vacation photos to advertisements idealizing picture-perfect sunny days, so you may feel that you have to have the “perfect” summer filled with flawless adventure, fun, and endless good times. But what if we challenged this narrative, and instead of striving for perfection, we focused on finding peace and gratitude in the small things summer offers.

Learn why you don’t need to have the “perfect” social media worthy summer, and how to let go of this pressure.

The Myth Of The Perfect Summer

The concept of a perfect summer isn’t grounded in reality, yet it’s an illusion fueled by social media and marketing campaigns. Think about what you see daily in your Instagram, FaceBook, or TikTok feed. You're likely bombarded with beautifully curated beach vacations, rooftop sunsets, pool parties, and photoshopped “can’t miss events.” Seeing these moments of people’s summer only shows the best parts and often obscures reality, because you aren’t seeing the mundane, stressful, or imperfect moments behind the camera.  

Ads on social media are inundating you with products you need for summer so you can get the same happiness and fulfillment as those in the ads if you buy their swimsuit, book that trip, or host the ultimate barbecue. This cycle creates a never-ending quest for perfection that’s not only unattainable but also emotionally exhausting. “Studies have shown that exposure to social media can increase anxiety and/or depression [and] it can directly impact your mental health and emotional wellness.”

The Cost Of Chasing Perfection  

When we chase an unattainable ideal, it can take a toll on our mental and emotional health because we can be on a hamster wheel that never ends.  

Increased Anxiety & Stress  

Trying to orchestrate the “perfect” summer can lead to anxiety over any missed social gathering and not living up to the ideas of others. You might find yourself obsessing over creating flawless experiences instead of living in the moment and all the greatness you have in your life.

Comparing Yourself To Other 

Comparing your summer to someone else’s curated phones and videos can make your amazing summer feel inadequate. This is a recipe for self-doubt and dissatisfaction. 

Financial Strain  

It’s easy to overspend in the pursuit of a picture-perfect summer. Whether it’s on vacations, dining out, or new summer clothing and accessories, the financial stress can add unnecessary stress to your life to try and have the same summer as others.

Finding Joy In The Present Moment

Have the summer you want, on your terms. Here’s how to shift your mindset and create a memorable summer free of pressure.

Redefine What A Perfect Summer Means To You  

Rather than chasing the perfect summer through other’s social media feeds, ask yourself what truly matters to you. For some, it might be as simple as sleeping in, spending time outdoors, reading under the sun, or enjoying quiet moments with loved ones. Write down your vision of a fulfilling summer, but don’t stress if you can’t get to everything. Maybe it’s less about chasing experiences and more about savoring the ones you already have.

Focus On Cherished Moments  

Find happiness in everyday experiences and appreciate the small things in life, like being present in the current situation. Laughing with a friend, laying out in the sun, or cooking a meal for your family can be something only done in the summer when the sun is out and people have more available time to get together.

Prioritize Rest & Spontaneity  

You don’t need a fully booked calendar to feel like you’re making the most of summer. Leave space for rest, relaxation, and spontaneity. Some of the best experiences happen when things aren’t meticulously planned. Rest also keeps our physical and mental health balanced, so that we can better manage anxiety and depression.

Disconnect From Social Media  

Be mindful of how much time you spend on social media and how it’s impacting your perception of your summer. Consider taking a break or unfollowing accounts that make you feel pressured to live a “better” life. Instead of scrolling through social media, replace this time with activities that help you disconnect, like journaling, walking, reading or practicing meditation.

Set Boundaries Around Commitments  

It’s okay to say no to plans that you don’t want to participate in. Setting boundaries helps you avoid burnout and ensures that the activities you do participate in feel more intentional and enjoyable.

Letting Go Of Pressure & Finding Peace: Asking For Help When You Need It

If summer stress starts to feel like too much, reach out to us for support because we can give you tools and guidance. Instead of striving for a picture-perfect summer, focus on what truly brings you joy and meaning so you can create a summer experience that feels authentic and fulfilling.